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We have been attending weekly meditation sessions with a few friends. During one of the earlier sessions, our facilitator guided us to the place described in the story – a lively steam, grasslands up to our knees and a wonderful forest of tall trees. I was frustrated by the fact that I never left the rock. Mulling over the session later, I was given this explanation by my Spirit… –

Just One of the Boys

With pant legs rolled up,

The boys waded into the cool, clear stream.

Summer had begun;

The adventures would start anew,

As they had year after year

Since before they had become teenagers.


One by one they left the stream,

Walking ashore into the inviting woodlands,

Tall grasses rising up to their knees.

Lingering, he climbed upon a large rock

In the middle of the stream,

As he watched the others slowly disappear from his view.


Feeling  somewhat contented, he wondered about his future –

What would be his true path?

Tears began flowing down his cheeks

Into the cool, shimmering stream,

Reflecting his adolescent face.


He tightly closed his eyes-

Visions of layers of himself peeling away,

As the tears fell.

To which of his friends could he reveal

His secret – sacrificing their friendships?

For even at his young and tender age he knew –

Once the secret was out in the open,

There would be no more adventures –

Just loneliness, more hidden secrets

More layers waiting to be peeled away.


Looking up

His friends came around the corner of the woods,

Questioning his decision to remain behind,

Sitting on the rock in the middle of the stream.

This summer – perhaps his last with them,

He would continue to be –

Just one of the boys.


I am sure we have all been here at sometime in our lives….

Conflict and Control

Not by coincidence, the history of mankind parallels

The existence of conflict in society;

Initially – person to person as in Cain and Abel,

Subsequently – group to group, religion versus religion,

Country versus country – global conflicts – WARS!

The essence of conflict is in control –

Who has it? Who wants it? Who is willing to take it?

Who is willing to give it up?

From the moment of conception,

Control exists in our individual genes,

With much of our early lives

Under the control of our parents, siblings and family.

In adolescence, we strive for a semblance of being in control

(Not to be confused with having self-control).

WE want to choose our friends, where we want to go,

What we want to do, what we want to wear, what music we listen to –

At which point some of us get out of control

Wrong friends, wrong places, wrong choices, substance abuse –

Falling once again under control…now non-familial.

In most instances, we realize the necessity

Of getting back in control, using self-control,

Not having learned the lessons of our adolescence,

Finding ourselves beyond control,

Ultimately requiring professional help –


Issues of control in our lives

Lead us on a long and winding road,

Personally, emotionally, spiritually and societally.

No one person, group or country on earth

Wants to be under the continuous control of another – twenty-four/seven as they say.

Total control restricts our growth, our movement, our speech…our choice to choose,

Ultimately leading us back on the road

To conflict…

Until we are able to regain some semblance of personal control in our own lives.

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